One of the biggest illusory obstacles to happiness is our perception that other people are keeping us from it. This person did this to me. That person always treats me that way. I can't stand it when Person X does ______. How do we get above blaming others, and all the attendant anger and frustration? We need to take responsibility for our emotions and for the people that we are drawing into our lives. You may find it hard to believe, but there is a lot of theory out there that says that we are doing EVERYTHING in our own lives. As I have observed my own life, I find this to be true.
Nobody can do anything to hurt us, unless there is something inside of us that is calling for that hurt. So, if someone is called into our lives to do act out a particular script, it is because we have called them into our lives to act out that script. There is something inside of us that magnetizes that person to us. It can be some fear or emotion or subconscious desire.
Did you ever notice all of the cyclical things that seem to happen to people? This person is always getting robbed. That person is always attracting abusive relationships. Do you think maybe there is something behind that? Is it possible that that person is a magnet for that type of behavior because his or her fears or emotions are constantly inviting that cycle of energy into his or her life?
If we can begin to take responsibility for what happens to us in our lives, and realize that it is something within us that is inviting any negativity that "happens" to us, we can start to remove the causes within us that are inviting the negative effects. We can become the "cause" of our own happiness, instead of the "effect" of what anybody else is doing to us.
To be continued...
Taking Responsibility,
Alan
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